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Tuesday, December 4, 2007
What Do Your Dreams Mean?
By Alicia Socorro
Why do we dream? What do our dreams mean? Are our subconscious minds trying to tell us something that our conscious minds are trying to ignore? Well, the answer is never an easy one, considering no one but you knows your past nor what you’re thinking about.
But certain dreams can be interpreted in a way that may help you realize an underlying issue you may not want to face or may not have realized was bothering you until you were told in a dream.
Are you ready to interpret some of the most common dreams women have? Let’s find out what your dreams mean.
What dreams mean situation #1
Naked
You’re going about your dream wonderfully when, all of a sudden, you look down to discover that you are completely naked in front of all these people. This could mean a number of things, depending on where you stand in your everyday life.
You’re hiding something – You have a secret you are keeping from others that you don’t want to or are afraid to reveal.
You’re unprepared – There’s a presentation of sorts coming up and you don’t think you’re well-prepared for it.
You’re proud – If, in your dream, you take pride in being naked, it could symbolize that you feel you have an unrestricted freedom to do whatever it is you desire.
You’re overanalyzing – If you are naked and no one else in your dream notices, it may be because you are making a big deal out of a small situation in your real life.
What dreams mean situation #2
Teeth falling out
One of the most common dreams around, your teeth crumble or fall out of your mouth one by one until you’re left with nothing but gums.
You’re anxious about your appearance – It’s possible that you’re about to meet someone who has never seen you before and you’re unsure about how they will perceive you.
You’re afraid of making a fool of yourself – Sometimes such a dream indicates an underlying fear of making a fool of yourself in a public situation.
You feel powerless – Teeth are used to bite, chew and tear things apart; the loss of them may represent a lack of power in certain aspects of your life.
You’re lying – According to Chinese scripture, losing your teeth indicates that you are lying about something in your daily life.
You’re menopausal – Having all your teeth is attractive (well, at least in relation to not having them), and if you’re menopausal you may feel that you are losing your attractiveness or “femininity.”
What dreams mean situation #3
Being chased
In your dream, you’re running away from someone who seems to be getting closer and closer to you no matter how quickly you try to outrun them.
You’re avoiding issues – Instead of confronting the problems in your life, you are trying to outrun them, so to speak.
You’re dealing with inner conflict – The chaser may represent a part of yourself that you’re not happy with. For example, if you’re feeling jealous, angry or in love, such feelings can show themselves as a threatening figure in dreams.
You’re afraid of being assaulted – Sometimes your dream may be true to life and not just symbolic. For example, if you have to travel through a dark parking lot every night after work, your fear of being attacked might reveal itself via your dreams.
What dreams mean situation #4
Falling
You’re falling and falling and you can’t hold onto anything nor can you stop it. You’re afraid that, at some point, you’re going to hit the ground, but it just doesn’t happen (and despite popular opinion, you don’t die in real life if you hit the ground in your dream).
You’re feeling unstable – Such dreams indicate a feeling of instability or anxiety, and it’s quite possible that you’re not sure how to deal with your current situation.
You’ve failed – whether it’s an exam or a relationship, you feel like you’ve failed and don’t know how to cope with these feelings.
You’re losing your pride – Whether it’s doing something you’re not too proud of or you’re inability to keep up with the Joneses, your pride is taking a hit.
Find out what your dreams mean
Dreams help us manage our thoughts and feelings, and may even give us a sign of things to come. Then again, they may just take place due to occurrences of the day (e.g. you run into a high school friend, then dream that you’re at the prom).
But it’s true that we dream for a reason; the only problem is that it’s left up to us to figure out what that reason is.
Some mornings you wake up and get on with your day without remembering or giving a second thought to your dreams. But other days you wake up feeling incredibly disturbed by your dreams and you remember them as if they were real.
Why do we dream? What do our dreams mean? Are our subconscious minds trying to tell us something that our conscious minds are trying to ignore? Well, the answer is never an easy one, considering no one but you knows your past nor what you’re thinking about.
But certain dreams can be interpreted in a way that may help you realize an underlying issue you may not want to face or may not have realized was bothering you until you were told in a dream.
Are you ready to interpret some of the most common dreams women have? Let’s find out what your dreams mean.
What dreams mean situation #1
Naked
You’re going about your dream wonderfully when, all of a sudden, you look down to discover that you are completely naked in front of all these people. This could mean a number of things, depending on where you stand in your everyday life.
You’re hiding something – You have a secret you are keeping from others that you don’t want to or are afraid to reveal.
You’re unprepared – There’s a presentation of sorts coming up and you don’t think you’re well-prepared for it.
You’re proud – If, in your dream, you take pride in being naked, it could symbolize that you feel you have an unrestricted freedom to do whatever it is you desire.
You’re overanalyzing – If you are naked and no one else in your dream notices, it may be because you are making a big deal out of a small situation in your real life.
What dreams mean situation #2
Teeth falling out
One of the most common dreams around, your teeth crumble or fall out of your mouth one by one until you’re left with nothing but gums.
You’re anxious about your appearance – It’s possible that you’re about to meet someone who has never seen you before and you’re unsure about how they will perceive you.
You’re afraid of making a fool of yourself – Sometimes such a dream indicates an underlying fear of making a fool of yourself in a public situation.
You feel powerless – Teeth are used to bite, chew and tear things apart; the loss of them may represent a lack of power in certain aspects of your life.
You’re lying – According to Chinese scripture, losing your teeth indicates that you are lying about something in your daily life.
You’re menopausal – Having all your teeth is attractive (well, at least in relation to not having them), and if you’re menopausal you may feel that you are losing your attractiveness or “femininity.”
What dreams mean situation #3
Being chased
In your dream, you’re running away from someone who seems to be getting closer and closer to you no matter how quickly you try to outrun them.
You’re avoiding issues – Instead of confronting the problems in your life, you are trying to outrun them, so to speak.
You’re dealing with inner conflict – The chaser may represent a part of yourself that you’re not happy with. For example, if you’re feeling jealous, angry or in love, such feelings can show themselves as a threatening figure in dreams.
You’re afraid of being assaulted – Sometimes your dream may be true to life and not just symbolic. For example, if you have to travel through a dark parking lot every night after work, your fear of being attacked might reveal itself via your dreams.
What dreams mean situation #4
Falling
You’re falling and falling and you can’t hold onto anything nor can you stop it. You’re afraid that, at some point, you’re going to hit the ground, but it just doesn’t happen (and despite popular opinion, you don’t die in real life if you hit the ground in your dream).
You’re feeling unstable – Such dreams indicate a feeling of instability or anxiety, and it’s quite possible that you’re not sure how to deal with your current situation.
You’ve failed – whether it’s an exam or a relationship, you feel like you’ve failed and don’t know how to cope with these feelings.
You’re losing your pride – Whether it’s doing something you’re not too proud of or you’re inability to keep up with the Joneses, your pride is taking a hit.
Find out what your dreams mean
Dreams help us manage our thoughts and feelings, and may even give us a sign of things to come. Then again, they may just take place due to occurrences of the day (e.g. you run into a high school friend, then dream that you’re at the prom).
But it’s true that we dream for a reason; the only problem is that it’s left up to us to figure out what that reason is.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Spa Massages Explained
By Alicia Socorro
Who can blame you, considering all these weird names and no explanations? Of course, if you keep putting it off, you will be missing out on the many benefits associated with spa massages… and there are many.
Spa massages are beneficial due to their muscle relaxation properties, stress alleviation, their ability to combat constipation and improve muscle tone, and, if performed regularly, can even reduce the appearance of cellulite.
Depending on what ails you or if you simply want to chill out for an hour and have someone rub you up and down, there are spa massages that is perfect for you.
First massage trip tips
If you’re paranoid about being completely naked, don’t worry, you can opt to leave your underwear on; leaving on any more than that will hinder the massage therapist’s ability to massage you effectively. You are covered with a sheet the entire time anyway.
If you’re more comfortable being massaged by a woman, call ahead and request one.
You can keep exact change with you so that you can tip the massage therapist or you can leave a tip with the front desk before you leave.
Tell the therapist if there’s a certain area of your body that aches.
If you’re uncomfortable with the music, the pressure being applied, or anything else, tell the therapist and he or she will be more than happy to make the necessary adjustments.
If you want to stay quiet or carry on a conversation during the massage, the therapist will follow suit.
Shower beforehand. It is important that your body is clean for the massage; otherwise the therapist may refuse to massage you.
Spa massages #1
Swedish
This massage technique involves rolling and kneading strokes. Using oil, the massage therapist spends his or her time performing movements that will leave you feeling both relaxed and rejuvenated.
Swedish benefits: Stimulates circulation and helps the body relax.
Spa massages #2
Shiatsu
This traditionally Japanese massage is designed to use your life force, or Chi, to help your body become more harmonized. The massage therapist uses their thumbs to locate strategic areas on the body and use acupressure to refresh and restore balance to the body and mind. This massage is sometimes performed on a floor mat with no massage oil.
Shiatsu benefits: Reduces stress and fatigue, and minimizes back pain, shoulder and neck problems, headaches, constipation, and menstrual cramps.
Spa massages #3
Lymphatic drainage
With a self-explanatory objective, this type of massage persuades the lymph capillaries to open and close, which helps the body cleanse itself and begin a cell renewal process. With soft, circular motions, the massage therapist uses his or her fingertips to massage all the lymphatic areas on your body.
Lymphatic drainage benefits: Raises energy levels, removes toxins from the body, reduces cellulite, and improves immune function.
Spa massages #4
Reflexology
This massage is based on the belief that there are reflexes in the hands and feet that correspond to the entire body. The massage therapist uses their thumbs and index fingers to apply pressure to these reflex points. After the pressure, you will be treated to a relaxing foot and hand massage.
Reflexology benefits: Improves circulation, cleanses your body of toxins and impurities, and restores energy.
Spa massages #5
Aromatherapy
With the objective of combining the sense of smell and the sense of touch, this type of massage aims to relax you with a soft massage and lightly scented oils.
Aromatherapy benefits: Releases pressure and stress from the body and mind, and restores a sense of peace.
Spa massages #6
Deep tissue
Using a kneading motion, the massage therapist reaches deep down into muscle tissues to correct problems in the body including whip lash, backaches and other muscle injuries. The different types of deep tissue massage include Trager, Rolfing, Feldenkrais, and Hellerwork. It is possible to feel sore the day after this type of massage.
Deep tissue benefits: Realigns muscles.
Spa massages #7
Reiki
This type of massage existed in ancient Tibetan times and was brought to North America in the 1950s; it involves healing through light touch. Chakras, or energy centers, are aligned and the massage therapist is trained to serve as a vessel by which your life force is revitalized.
Reiki benefits: Relaxes the entire body and heals general maladies.
Spa massages #8
Stone therapy
Stone therapy, or thermotherapy, combines heat and pressure with the use of smooth stones placed on strategic areas on the back.
Stone therapy benefits: Relaxes the body, promotes healing, and releases stress and toxins.
Spa massages
Spas offer a whole lot more than just massages, but if it’s your first time, get a massage at a variety of spas before settling on one.
Some people think that massages are a luxury, and it’s true, they are, but they are also very beneficial to the body and you shouldn’t wait until you get a gift certificate before visiting one.
Get your rub on.
So you’ve decided that it’s time to start spoiling yourself, but when you grabbed a pamphlet from your local spa and noticed that there were a multitude of spa massages to choose from, you felt intimidated and decided that maybe that spa visit can wait.
Who can blame you, considering all these weird names and no explanations? Of course, if you keep putting it off, you will be missing out on the many benefits associated with spa massages… and there are many.
Spa massages are beneficial due to their muscle relaxation properties, stress alleviation, their ability to combat constipation and improve muscle tone, and, if performed regularly, can even reduce the appearance of cellulite
Depending on what ails you or if you simply want to chill out for an hour and have someone rub you up and down, there are spa massages that is perfect for you.
First massage trip tips
If you’re paranoid about being completely naked, don’t worry, you can opt to leave your underwear on; leaving on any more than that will hinder the massage therapist’s ability to massage you effectively. You are covered with a sheet the entire time anyway.
If you’re more comfortable being massaged by a woman, call ahead and request one.
You can keep exact change with you so that you can tip the massage therapist or you can leave a tip with the front desk before you leave.
Tell the therapist if there’s a certain area of your body that aches.
If you’re uncomfortable with the music, the pressure being applied, or anything else, tell the therapist and he or she will be more than happy to make the necessary adjustments.
If you want to stay quiet or carry on a conversation during the massage, the therapist will follow suit.
Shower beforehand. It is important that your body is clean for the massage; otherwise the therapist may refuse to massage you.
Spa massages #1
Swedish
This massage technique involves rolling and kneading strokes. Using oil, the massage therapist spends his or her time performing movements that will leave you feeling both relaxed and rejuvenated.
Swedish benefits: Stimulates circulation and helps the body relax.
Spa massages #2
Shiatsu
This traditionally Japanese massage is designed to use your life force, or Chi, to help your body become more harmonized. The massage therapist uses their thumbs to locate strategic areas on the body and use acupressure to refresh and restore balance to the body and mind. This massage is sometimes performed on a floor mat with no massage oil.
Shiatsu benefits: Reduces stress and fatigue, and minimizes back pain, shoulder and neck problems, headaches, constipation, and menstrual cramps.
Spa massages #3
Lymphatic drainage
With a self-explanatory objective, this type of massage persuades the lymph capillaries to open and close, which helps the body cleanse itself and begin a cell renewal process. With soft, circular motions, the massage therapist uses his or her fingertips to massage all the lymphatic areas on your body.
Lymphatic drainage benefits: Raises energy levels, removes toxins from the body, reduces cellulite, and improves immune function.
Spa massages #4
Reflexology
This massage is based on the belief that there are reflexes in the hands and feet that correspond to the entire body. The massage therapist uses their thumbs and index fingers to apply pressure to these reflex points. After the pressure, you will be treated to a relaxing foot and hand massage.
Reflexology benefits: Improves circulation, cleanses your body of toxins and impurities, and restores energy.
Spa massages #5
Aromatherapy
With the objective of combining the sense of smell and the sense of touch, this type of massage aims to relax you with a soft massage and lightly scented oils.
Aromatherapy benefits: Releases pressure and stress from the body and mind, and restores a sense of peace.
Spa massages #6
Deep tissue
Using a kneading motion, the massage therapist reaches deep down into muscle tissues to correct problems in the body including whip lash, backaches and other muscle injuries. The different types of deep tissue massage include Trager, Rolfing, Feldenkrais, and Hellerwork. It is possible to feel sore the day after this type of massage.
Deep tissue benefits: Realigns muscles.
Spa massages #7
Reiki
This type of massage existed in ancient Tibetan times and was brought to North America in the 1950s; it involves healing through light touch. Chakras, or energy centers, are aligned and the massage therapist is trained to serve as a vessel by which your life force is revitalized.
Reiki benefits: Relaxes the entire body and heals general maladies.
Spa massages #8
Stone therapy
Stone therapy, or thermotherapy, combines heat and pressure with the use of smooth stones placed on strategic areas on the back.
Stone therapy benefits: Relaxes the body, promotes healing, and releases stress and toxins.
Spa massages
Spas offer a whole lot more than just massages, but if it’s your first time, get a massage at a variety of spas before settling on one.
Some people think that massages are a luxury, and it’s true, they are, but they are also very beneficial to the body and you shouldn’t wait until you get a gift certificate before visiting one.
Get your rub on.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
8 Ways To Be Happy
By Alicia Socorro
If you’re consistently complaining or on edge, how comfortable do you really feel in your own skin? How comfortable can others possibly feel around you if everything is negative or upsets you?
It’s time to get a grip on your emotions and turn anger and frustration into happiness. Of course, you won’t become Mary Poppins come tomorrow morning, but you may start looking at your life in a new, more positive fashion. And although it may take some time, you can be happy, and love life.
How to be happy tip #1
Make time for you
How often do you sit alone in a quiet room and think? If you’re like most women, there’s a good chance that it’s not often at all.
It’s important to spend time by yourself without zoning out to the television. Most of us arrive home, turn on the TV, have dinner, talk to family and friends, and go to bed without having even reflected on ourselves. Is that any way to be happy?
And you don’t have to meditate to be effective; read a bookyou’ve been eyeing, lie down and close your eyes for five minutes, or soak in a hot bath for 20 minutes. You don’t need to be alone for hours on end, but making yourself a priority for a little while each day will help you become more satisfied with your life, not to mention be happy about what you do have going for you.
How to be happy tip #2
Smile at everyone
I live in a metropolitan area where smiling at strangers makes you certifiable, but I do it anyway, and more and more, I notice that people feel good about it and most return the small favor.
If you smile, you will instantly feel better and make those around you feel better, thus filling your surroundings with a positive vibe.
Whether it’s people you see every day during your commute or someone you’ve never seen before at Starbuck’s, smile your pretty little face off and spread the goodness. If you want to be happy, perhaps you should start acting happy.
How to be happy tip #3
Eat right
Believe it or not, too much sugar, greasy foods and hydrogenated fats can leave you feeling depressed. If you don’t get any raw food in your diet and consistently eat fast food, it may have a serious impact on your moods.
Adding Omega 3 to your diet via fish, flaxseed or even a supplement, may help to ward off depression, according to a study conducted by Dr. Joseph Hibbeln of the National Institutes of Health (NIH).
As well, fresh fruit like bananas and strawberries also provide necessary vitamins to keep your serotonin levels up and allowing you to be happy.
And you’ll be happy to know that chocolate is on that list, however, I strongly recommend you consume (70% or higher) dark chocolate rather than milk or white chocolate (it’s healthier) and even then, consume it in moderation.
How to be happy tip #4
Exercise
On so many levels, being active is so good for you. It will help you reshape your body, thus making you feel better about yourself and resulting in, you guessed it, happiness. When you feel confident about your body, you will be happy, no doubt.
But there’s more; exercising releases serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine, and endorphins, natural chemicals in the body that boost mood. If you’ve never heard of “runner’s high,” the theory is based on the fact that after rigorous exercise, runners feel this euphoric sensation come over them.
So commit yourself to a 30-minute walk every single day (at the very least), and you will begin to feel and look better, and be happy.
How to be happy tip #5
Get orgasmic
If you’ve never experienced orgasm, it’s no wonder you’ve been moody… just kidding. But orgasm results in the body’s release of oxytocin, a chemical that causes the release of endorphins, ultimately helping you to be happy. Although some would argue that getting laid in general would pretty much take care of that whole happiness issue.
Regular orgasm is good for the body and for your mood, just keep in mind that you need to play it safe and use protection if you are not in a monogamous relationship and do not want to spend half the month wondering if you’re pregnant. That would not help you to be happy.
How to be happy tip #6
Get a pet
If you are not an animal person or think that animals in the home are disgusting, then don’t get a pet. But if you’ve been debating whether or not to get a toy dog or a kitty cat, you may inadvertently be doing yourself a favor.
Animals are innocent and are never intentionally malicious towards their owners. They love you unconditionally, and nothing will help you to be happy like coming home to a pet who adores you.
Even if you’ve had the worst day of your life, spending a few minutes petting your animal will help to calm you down and realize that things aren’t really that bad.
How to be happy tip #7
Remind yourself how lucky you are
If you lost a major account at work or you and your boyfriend had a huge fight and you’re wondering if this is the end of the road for you as a couple, take a minute and think about your situation.
Sometimes we tend to be a little melodramatic and quickly conclude that our lives are so terrible, but upon further reflection, we realize that we’re actually quite lucky to be living where we do, to have our health, and to be loved by so many people.
Although you might want to wallow in self-pity sometimes (and that’s okay), bring yourself back to reality and remind yourself that things could always be worse. If you want to be happy, you need to focus on all the good things in your life.
How to be happy tip #8
Calm down
We spend our lives rushing through every day. We rush to work, we rush to eat lunch and get back to work, we rush home, and we rush through traffic.
Take a minute, look away from the computer, count to 10, then inhale to a 4-count, letting your stomach protrude, and exhale. Go ahead, I’ll wait…
There, don’t you feel calmer? Whenever you feel like your brain is overwhelmed with thoughts or that there just isn’t enough time in the day to do everything, stop for one minute, breathe deep, and get back to what you were doing. You may realize that you’re freaking out for nothing. If you want to be happy, you need to put things in perspective.
All women can be happy
You can’t expect a man or money or anything else to help you be happy. You create and destroy your own happiness because what it all comes down to is your mindset.
Now is your mind set on being pissed off all day, or would you rather be more pleasant and feel good about yourself? The choice is ultimately up to you.
Remember: No one can make you angry or upset, you have control over your feelings. And you can choose to be happy.
Do you know someone who is always in a good mood? Does it get on your nerves? Yeah, me too. But being happy is important for many reasons, but, above and beyond all else, it’s important if you want to have a better quality of life. Don’t you want to be happy?
If you’re consistently complaining or on edge, how comfortable do you really feel in your own skin? How comfortable can others possibly feel around you if everything is negative or upsets you?
It’s time to get a grip on your emotions and turn anger and frustration into happiness. Of course, you won’t become Mary Poppins come tomorrow morning, but you may start looking at your life in a new, more positive fashion. And although it may take some time, you can be happy, and love life.
How to be happy tip #1
Make time for you
How often do you sit alone in a quiet room and think? If you’re like most women, there’s a good chance that it’s not often at all.
It’s important to spend time by yourself without zoning out to the television. Most of us arrive home, turn on the TV, have dinner, talk to family and friends, and go to bed without having even reflected on ourselves. Is that any way to be happy?
And you don’t have to meditate to be effective; read a book
How to be happy tip #2
Smile at everyone
I live in a metropolitan area where smiling at strangers makes you certifiable, but I do it anyway, and more and more, I notice that people feel good about it and most return the small favor.
If you smile, you will instantly feel better and make those around you feel better, thus filling your surroundings with a positive vibe.
Whether it’s people you see every day during your commute or someone you’ve never seen before at Starbuck’s, smile your pretty little face off and spread the goodness. If you want to be happy, perhaps you should start acting happy.
How to be happy tip #3
Eat right
Believe it or not, too much sugar, greasy foods and hydrogenated fats can leave you feeling depressed. If you don’t get any raw food in your diet and consistently eat fast food, it may have a serious impact on your moods.
Adding Omega 3 to your diet via fish, flaxseed or even a supplement, may help to ward off depression, according to a study conducted by Dr. Joseph Hibbeln of the National Institutes of Health (NIH).
As well, fresh fruit like bananas and strawberries also provide necessary vitamins to keep your serotonin levels up and allowing you to be happy.
And you’ll be happy to know that chocolate is on that list, however, I strongly recommend you consume (70% or higher) dark chocolate rather than milk or white chocolate (it’s healthier) and even then, consume it in moderation.
How to be happy tip #4
Exercise
On so many levels, being active is so good for you. It will help you reshape your body, thus making you feel better about yourself and resulting in, you guessed it, happiness. When you feel confident about your body, you will be happy, no doubt.
But there’s more; exercising releases serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine, and endorphins, natural chemicals in the body that boost mood. If you’ve never heard of “runner’s high,” the theory is based on the fact that after rigorous exercise, runners feel this euphoric sensation come over them.
So commit yourself to a 30-minute walk every single day (at the very least), and you will begin to feel and look better, and be happy.
How to be happy tip #5
Get orgasmic
If you’ve never experienced orgasm, it’s no wonder you’ve been moody… just kidding. But orgasm results in the body’s release of oxytocin, a chemical that causes the release of endorphins, ultimately helping you to be happy. Although some would argue that getting laid in general would pretty much take care of that whole happiness issue.
Regular orgasm is good for the body and for your mood, just keep in mind that you need to play it safe and use protection if you are not in a monogamous relationship and do not want to spend half the month wondering if you’re pregnant. That would not help you to be happy.
How to be happy tip #6
Get a pet
If you are not an animal person or think that animals in the home are disgusting, then don’t get a pet. But if you’ve been debating whether or not to get a toy dog or a kitty cat, you may inadvertently be doing yourself a favor.
Animals are innocent and are never intentionally malicious towards their owners. They love you unconditionally, and nothing will help you to be happy like coming home to a pet who adores you.
Even if you’ve had the worst day of your life, spending a few minutes petting your animal will help to calm you down and realize that things aren’t really that bad.
How to be happy tip #7
Remind yourself how lucky you are
If you lost a major account at work or you and your boyfriend had a huge fight and you’re wondering if this is the end of the road for you as a couple, take a minute and think about your situation.
Sometimes we tend to be a little melodramatic and quickly conclude that our lives are so terrible, but upon further reflection, we realize that we’re actually quite lucky to be living where we do, to have our health, and to be loved by so many people.
Although you might want to wallow in self-pity sometimes (and that’s okay), bring yourself back to reality and remind yourself that things could always be worse. If you want to be happy, you need to focus on all the good things in your life.
How to be happy tip #8
Calm down
We spend our lives rushing through every day. We rush to work, we rush to eat lunch and get back to work, we rush home, and we rush through traffic.
Take a minute, look away from the computer, count to 10, then inhale to a 4-count, letting your stomach protrude, and exhale. Go ahead, I’ll wait…
There, don’t you feel calmer? Whenever you feel like your brain is overwhelmed with thoughts or that there just isn’t enough time in the day to do everything, stop for one minute, breathe deep, and get back to what you were doing. You may realize that you’re freaking out for nothing. If you want to be happy, you need to put things in perspective.
All women can be happy
You can’t expect a man or money or anything else to help you be happy. You create and destroy your own happiness because what it all comes down to is your mindset.
Now is your mind set on being pissed off all day, or would you rather be more pleasant and feel good about yourself? The choice is ultimately up to you.
Remember: No one can make you angry or upset, you have control over your feelings. And you can choose to be happy.
Saturday, October 20, 2007
How To Improve Your Table Manners
By Joanne Redder
While I’m sure you know the basics of how to eat like a lady, it’s possible that you let your best behavior fall by the wayside every now and then, and all you need is a refresher course to make sure that you maintain your table manners for a lifetime.
And even if you’re date is not behaving like a gentleman or your girlfriends are downing ribs and have sauce smeared all over their faces, it will only reflect well on you to conduct yourself like a lady.
So the next time you’re out, here’s what you need to remember about your table manners:
Table manners tip #1
When a chair is pulled out for you
Whether it’s your date or the service person, when anyone pulls out your chair, thank them and kneel down far away enough from the chair so that when the person pushes it in slightly, you can grab the bottom of the chair and perfect your seating.
Do not sit directly where the chair has been pulled out, otherwise the person will have a difficult time trying to help you bring the chair in.
Table manners tip #2
Body language
Your body language says a lot about you. Even if you are the most polite and entertaining conversationalist, if you cannot keep your “body” manners up, the rest of your behavior may not get noticed.
Napkin – Upon being seated, bring your napkin down to your lap (assuming it’s cloth), unfold it, and place it in your lap. When you finish eating, place your napkin beside the plate.
Arms – Keep your elbows off the table at all times, but do place your forearms on the table. Do not keep your hands under the table, it is considered rude.
Legs – Do not cross your legs (unless you can do so discreetly under the table) and do not at any point place your foot on the chair.
Posture – Try to keep your back against the chair when you are not eating and maintain your posture throughout the night.
Table manners tip #3
Dining etiquette
While I can’t be there to tell you how to eat whatever it is that you order, there are some simple tips you need to keep in mind.
Seasoning – Do not add salt and pepper to your food before you’ve tasted it. If someone asks you to pass the salt, pass both the salt and pepper by picking them up and placing them near the person next to you -- they should not be passed from hand to hand. As well, if someone made the request before you’ve used them, they get first dibs.
Soup – Dip your spoon into the soup and spoon away from your body, filling 2/3 of the spoon. Do not blow on or slurp your soup. When it is nearing the finish, it is fine to tilt the bowl.
Other appetizers & meals – Besides bread, I strongly suggest that you don’t order anything that needs to be eaten with your fingers (ribs, lamb chops). It could get messy and may not give off the sort of impression you’d like to make. And when you opt to eat bread – off a piece at a time, put some butter on it (if you want) and then place the morsel in your mouth.
Every course – Leave a bit of food on your plate throughout each course; it is considered good manners.
Table manners tip #4
Utensils use
They have long been the bane of most diners but there are some easy tips to follow when it comes to your forks knives, and spoons.
If there are multiple forks at your setting, begin with the outside fork and work your way in.
When dining with a fork and knife, a couple of pieces of your food, place your knife at the top of your plate with the blade facing toward you, then place a morsel inside your mouth.
Always bring the food up to your mouth; do not lower your face closer to your plate.
After you’ve completed a course, do not place your used utensils back in their original place. Instead, place both your fork and knife on the right side of the plate, with the points facing away from you to indicate that you’ve completed your course.
Table manners tip #5
Being served
In an ideal world, everyone’s food would arrive at the same time. Sometimes, however, that is not the case. If your food happens to arrive before anyone else’s, wait until they have received their food as well.
If you happen to be in a restaurant where a bunch of platters are being served for the entire table to share, always pass food on your right.
Table manners tip #6
Drinking
Whether you are drinking wine or mineral water, if your glass has a stem, always hold it from the stem.
Do not take a drink of anything until someone else has broken the ice or offers to make a toast.
If you want to take a drink while you are eating, swallow your food and wipe your mouth with your napkin beforehand.
Table manners tip #7
Good conversation
If you want to be able to carry on a conversation (which you should), take small bites of food with each forkful so that you are able to swallow quickly and maintain a conversation.
Even if you’re telling a wicked story about the time you were nearly eaten by a shark, do not at any point wave your utensils in the air while speaking.
Table manners tip #8
Bathroom breaks
It’s inevitable; with all that liquid being ingested, you will definitely need a bathroom break. Or, you may just want to reapply your lipstick.
Excuse yourself before you stand up. Do not explain why you need to be excused. When you do stand up, place your napkin on your chair.
Table manners tip #9
Paying the tab
If you are the one who extended the invitation to dinner, it’s only right to pick up the tab. Be discreet about it and thank your guest(s) for coming.
Table manners for women
It’s widely believed that if you’re looking for a gentleman, you need to behave like a lady, and while no one wants to be this formal all the time, it is nice to adapt some table manners when you’re in a situation that calls for it.
Bon appetit.
Whether you’re having a casual dinner with girlfriends or dining at a high-end restaurant with the potential man of your dreams, table manners are an important indication of what you’re really like.
While I’m sure you know the basics of how to eat like a lady, it’s possible that you let your best behavior fall by the wayside every now and then, and all you need is a refresher course to make sure that you maintain your table manners for a lifetime.
And even if you’re date is not behaving like a gentleman or your girlfriends are downing ribs and have sauce smeared all over their faces, it will only reflect well on you to conduct yourself like a lady.
So the next time you’re out, here’s what you need to remember about your table manners:
Table manners tip #1
When a chair is pulled out for you
Whether it’s your date or the service person, when anyone pulls out your chair, thank them and kneel down far away enough from the chair so that when the person pushes it in slightly, you can grab the bottom of the chair and perfect your seating.
Do not sit directly where the chair has been pulled out, otherwise the person will have a difficult time trying to help you bring the chair in.
Table manners tip #2
Body language
Your body language says a lot about you. Even if you are the most polite and entertaining conversationalist, if you cannot keep your “body” manners up, the rest of your behavior may not get noticed.
Napkin – Upon being seated, bring your napkin down to your lap (assuming it’s cloth), unfold it, and place it in your lap. When you finish eating, place your napkin beside the plate.
Arms – Keep your elbows off the table at all times, but do place your forearms on the table. Do not keep your hands under the table, it is considered rude.
Legs – Do not cross your legs (unless you can do so discreetly under the table) and do not at any point place your foot on the chair.
Posture – Try to keep your back against the chair when you are not eating and maintain your posture throughout the night.
Table manners tip #3
Dining etiquette
While I can’t be there to tell you how to eat whatever it is that you order, there are some simple tips you need to keep in mind.
Seasoning – Do not add salt and pepper to your food before you’ve tasted it. If someone asks you to pass the salt, pass both the salt and pepper by picking them up and placing them near the person next to you -- they should not be passed from hand to hand. As well, if someone made the request before you’ve used them, they get first dibs.
Soup – Dip your spoon into the soup and spoon away from your body, filling 2/3 of the spoon. Do not blow on or slurp your soup. When it is nearing the finish, it is fine to tilt the bowl.
Other appetizers & meals – Besides bread, I strongly suggest that you don’t order anything that needs to be eaten with your fingers (ribs, lamb chops). It could get messy and may not give off the sort of impression you’d like to make. And when you opt to eat bread – off a piece at a time, put some butter on it (if you want) and then place the morsel in your mouth.
Every course – Leave a bit of food on your plate throughout each course; it is considered good manners.
Table manners tip #4
Utensils use
They have long been the bane of most diners but there are some easy tips to follow when it comes to your forks knives, and spoons.
If there are multiple forks at your setting, begin with the outside fork and work your way in.
When dining with a fork and knife, a couple of pieces of your food, place your knife at the top of your plate with the blade facing toward you, then place a morsel inside your mouth.
Always bring the food up to your mouth; do not lower your face closer to your plate.
After you’ve completed a course, do not place your used utensils back in their original place. Instead, place both your fork and knife on the right side of the plate, with the points facing away from you to indicate that you’ve completed your course.
Table manners tip #5
Being served
In an ideal world, everyone’s food would arrive at the same time. Sometimes, however, that is not the case. If your food happens to arrive before anyone else’s, wait until they have received their food as well.
If you happen to be in a restaurant where a bunch of platters are being served for the entire table to share, always pass food on your right.
Table manners tip #6
Drinking
Whether you are drinking wine or mineral water, if your glass has a stem, always hold it from the stem.
Do not take a drink of anything until someone else has broken the ice or offers to make a toast.
If you want to take a drink while you are eating, swallow your food and wipe your mouth with your napkin beforehand.
Table manners tip #7
Good conversation
If you want to be able to carry on a conversation (which you should), take small bites of food with each forkful so that you are able to swallow quickly and maintain a conversation.
Even if you’re telling a wicked story about the time you were nearly eaten by a shark, do not at any point wave your utensils in the air while speaking.
Table manners tip #8
Bathroom breaks
It’s inevitable; with all that liquid being ingested, you will definitely need a bathroom break. Or, you may just want to reapply your lipstick.
Excuse yourself before you stand up. Do not explain why you need to be excused. When you do stand up, place your napkin on your chair.
Table manners tip #9
Paying the tab
If you are the one who extended the invitation to dinner, it’s only right to pick up the tab. Be discreet about it and thank your guest(s) for coming.
Table manners for women
It’s widely believed that if you’re looking for a gentleman, you need to behave like a lady, and while no one wants to be this formal all the time, it is nice to adapt some table manners when you’re in a situation that calls for it.
Bon appetit.
Saturday, October 6, 2007
How To Throw The Perfect Barbecue
By Joanne Redder
Well, with the right food, drinks and entertainment, your guests will be talking about your perfect barbecue for the rest of the summer.
Here’s what you’ll need to get and what you’ll need to do.
Own the perfect barbecue grill
Before you even bother inviting anyone, you need to get yourself the perfect barbecue grill. There’s much debate over whether charcoal or gas is best – charcoal gives food that great smoky flavor, but gas is easier to deal with and you can add smoky wood chips to enhance the flavor of food.
No matter which one you select, make sure it’s big enough to put a lot of food on simultaneously.
Buy enough food
Not only do you need to buy food, but you need to buy a whole lot of it. You also have to keep in mind that everyone has different tastes and while a perfect barbecue is, by definition, a meat eater’s thing, there are other foodstuffs that you should include.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Steaks
-Hot dogs and buns
-Sausages and some sort of exotic bread (walnut, olive, jalapeno corn, etc.)
-Pork
-Seafood (shrimp, scallops, salmon)
-Hamburgers and buns
-Ribs
-Chicken
-Vegetables for grilling (peppers, tomatoes, onions, zucchini, corn on the cob)
-Condiments (ketchup, mustard, hot sauce, relish, mayonnaise, pickles)
-Seasonings and marinades (optional)
-Chips and dip
-Trail mix
-Salad (lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, nuts)
-Fruits (pineapples, peaches, mangos, berries, cherries, oranges, melons)
It is best to buy most of this food the day before your get together to ensure freshness and enough time to complete everything. The day of the party, remove the meat from the fridge an hour beforehand and let it rest on your kitchen counter.
As well, don’t think you’re limited to grilling just vegetables and meat at your perfect barbecue; throw some pineapple, peaches, melon, and mango onto the grill for some great treats.
And if you have a boatload of food leftover, give everyone a parting platter to take home. That way, you don’t end up with weeks of leftovers nor do you have to throw anything away.
Plenty of drinks
As with the food, all these different palates gathering in your backyard will also want different drinks to quench their thirst. But one common factor for all these perfect barbecue drinks is that they need to be cold.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Coolers
-Variety of beer (domestic and foreign)
-Sodas (regular, diet)
-Juices (fruit and iced tea)
-Bottled water (spring and mineral)
-Mixed alcoholic drinks (Smirnoff Ice, Mike’s Hard Lemonade)
-Wine (red, white and rose)
-Daiquiri and margarita mix
-Plenty of ice
Other perfect barbecue necessities
Your party would be a bust if everyone was forced to eat with their hands and then throw everything on the floor. So although the food and drink is important, without the little necessities, you would have quite the mess on your hands.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Garbage bags (place some all over the place)
-Plastic plates, utensils and cups (you don’t want to spend all night cleaning)
-Grilling tools (tongs, spatula, fork, grilling grid)
-Napkins and paper weights (place some napkins everywhere)
-Tiki torches and citronella candles (if the party goes on well into the evening)
Entertainment
Your guests may end up chatting the night away, but it’s a great idea to plan for some entertainment and give yourself some insurance that everyone will have a good time.
Music – It’s a great idea to have music playing in the background continuously. Make sure to instill a variety of songs so that everyone ends up bobbing their head to the music at some point. Hook your iPod up to the speakers and let the music play amid your perfect barbecue.
Games – From darts and badminton to “what if...” (a game in which you present guests with hypothetical situations), games will help guests become more comfortable with each other and allow for a better rapport.
Outdoor equipment
Your backyard (or rooftop) should contain items that ensure guests’ comfort and satisfaction, and the best way to prepare for your perfect barbecue is by hanging out in your backyard a few days before the event to see what goes on back there.
And, if necessary, get the following items:
-Chairs (place bunches of chairs in strategic places so that people can wander around and join circles and discussions)
-Tables (big ones to place the food on and small ones for guests to place their plates and drinks on)
-Overhead coverage - if the sun beats down on your backyard or the weather ends up being disagreeable, it’s a great idea to provide shaded areas or overhead coverage.
The perfect barbecue
It looks like you’ll have everything covered at your get together. Now all you need is a beautiful day and some awesome bug repellant.
You’ve decided to invite over all your friends over for an outdoor barbecue in your massive backyard or on the rooftop of your building. The thing is, you want to make certain that everyone has a good time and a full stomach, but you’re not absolutely certain about how to go about accomplishing that.
Well, with the right food, drinks and entertainment, your guests will be talking about your perfect barbecue for the rest of the summer.
Here’s what you’ll need to get and what you’ll need to do.
Own the perfect barbecue grill
Before you even bother inviting anyone, you need to get yourself the perfect barbecue grill. There’s much debate over whether charcoal or gas is best – charcoal gives food that great smoky flavor, but gas is easier to deal with and you can add smoky wood chips to enhance the flavor of food.
No matter which one you select, make sure it’s big enough to put a lot of food on simultaneously.
Buy enough food
Not only do you need to buy food, but you need to buy a whole lot of it. You also have to keep in mind that everyone has different tastes and while a perfect barbecue is, by definition, a meat eater’s thing, there are other foodstuffs that you should include.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Steaks
-Hot dogs and buns
-Sausages and some sort of exotic bread (walnut, olive, jalapeno corn, etc.)
-Pork
-Seafood (shrimp, scallops, salmon)
-Hamburgers and buns
-Ribs
-Chicken
-Vegetables for grilling (peppers, tomatoes, onions, zucchini, corn on the cob)
-Condiments (ketchup, mustard, hot sauce, relish, mayonnaise, pickles)
-Seasonings and marinades (optional)
-Chips and dip
-Trail mix
-Salad (lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, nuts)
-Fruits (pineapples, peaches, mangos, berries, cherries, oranges, melons)
It is best to buy most of this food the day before your get together to ensure freshness and enough time to complete everything. The day of the party, remove the meat from the fridge an hour beforehand and let it rest on your kitchen counter.
As well, don’t think you’re limited to grilling just vegetables and meat at your perfect barbecue; throw some pineapple, peaches, melon, and mango onto the grill for some great treats.
And if you have a boatload of food leftover, give everyone a parting platter to take home. That way, you don’t end up with weeks of leftovers nor do you have to throw anything away.
Plenty of drinks
As with the food, all these different palates gathering in your backyard will also want different drinks to quench their thirst. But one common factor for all these perfect barbecue drinks is that they need to be cold.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Coolers
-Variety of beer (domestic and foreign)
-Sodas (regular, diet)
-Juices (fruit and iced tea)
-Bottled water (spring and mineral)
-Mixed alcoholic drinks (Smirnoff Ice, Mike’s Hard Lemonade)
-Wine (red, white and rose)
-Daiquiri and margarita mix
-Plenty of ice
Other perfect barbecue necessities
Your party would be a bust if everyone was forced to eat with their hands and then throw everything on the floor. So although the food and drink is important, without the little necessities, you would have quite the mess on your hands.
Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:
-Garbage bags (place some all over the place)
-Plastic plates, utensils and cups (you don’t want to spend all night cleaning)
-Grilling tools (tongs, spatula, fork, grilling grid)
-Napkins and paper weights (place some napkins everywhere)
-Tiki torches and citronella candles (if the party goes on well into the evening)
Entertainment
Your guests may end up chatting the night away, but it’s a great idea to plan for some entertainment and give yourself some insurance that everyone will have a good time.
Music – It’s a great idea to have music playing in the background continuously. Make sure to instill a variety of songs so that everyone ends up bobbing their head to the music at some point. Hook your iPod up to the speakers and let the music play amid your perfect barbecue.
Games – From darts and badminton to “what if...” (a game in which you present guests with hypothetical situations), games will help guests become more comfortable with each other and allow for a better rapport.
Outdoor equipment
Your backyard (or rooftop) should contain items that ensure guests’ comfort and satisfaction, and the best way to prepare for your perfect barbecue is by hanging out in your backyard a few days before the event to see what goes on back there.
And, if necessary, get the following items:
-Chairs (place bunches of chairs in strategic places so that people can wander around and join circles and discussions)
-Tables (big ones to place the food on and small ones for guests to place their plates and drinks on)
-Overhead coverage - if the sun beats down on your backyard or the weather ends up being disagreeable, it’s a great idea to provide shaded areas or overhead coverage.
The perfect barbecue
It looks like you’ll have everything covered at your get together. Now all you need is a beautiful day and some awesome bug repellant.
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